It's OK Not To Be OK
Updated: Jan 7, 2019
"It'll be alright in the end, and if it's not alright, it's not the end" John Lennon.
This quote is one I have used so much more in the past month than any other time and that's because I have met so many friends, family and clients who really needed to hear these words. Although I say it is a quote by John Lennon it seems to have many other sources including it's use in the movie 'The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel'. It doesn't really matter where the saying comes from, what matters most is it's important message in a world where we get so caught up in the mind.
Because we are 'human' we all face challenges and upset in our lives. In a world where most of our lives play out on social media it can be easy to think that everyone else's life is pretty perfect; after all not many people share the 'real' parts of their lives half as much as they share the 'rosey' parts! We sometimes feel we can't let our guard down and open up to our emotions when we are feeling pretty crap or life is throwing us a curved ball. Nothing could be further from the truth ... the moment we open up to sharing the true and honest way we are feeling is the moment that we can tune in to the real, broken, damaged self that just needs a lot of TLC and nurturing. We all hit rock bottom at some stage in our lives and I doubt if anyone reading this has never been there. We sometimes need to reach the bottom in order to soar back up and it's perfectly fine to cry, it's fine to get frustrated, it's ok to get angry and shout and scream. When difficult times come along it can be hard for us to understand but sometimes it's ok to not be ok. So if you have hit rock bottom in your life; then know that it's ok. Reach out for help ~ the old ad-age "a problem shared is a problem halved"; talk to a friend, find a support group, accept help from a family member or friend. Don't try to do it, or go it alone. There is always a light at the end of the tunnel (even if it may feel like a tiny weeny flicker) and if you just hold the hope everything will be alright in the end; but for now it may be for you that "It's ok to not be ok" and if that is what you need to sit with then so be it.
From my own personal experience, when I have hit those "rock bottom" times in my life and felt like everything had collapsed onto the floor and there was no way up; I'd cling to my meditation practice if only for 2/3 minutes per day. That silent, calm, inner space has always held my hand and led me out of the darkness to pick up the pieces and move forward with just baby steps at first but then the more I'd practice the more I would see that light at the end of the tunnel and as it got brighter and brighter I then found I was able to pick myself up from the floor and work my way back into life.
It doesn't matter if your situation is a feeling of anxiousness, a family feud, grief from a loss of any kind, overwhelming stress or just loneliness - it's your challenge and you are the person who has to deal with it. So be gentle with yourself and do whatever feels right for YOU!
If you find guided meditation helps you then you may wish to consider joining my private FB group where we work with a different affirmation or an exercise each week and I do a guided meditation on that subject most weeks.
Alternatively if you prefer to work privately or you are not on FB, then I will be making guided meditations available via my website for Free , or if you prefer, you can make a donation (only because I know some people feel they want to give in order to receive and money is just an exchange of energy)!