How True Is Your Story?
This month I would like to look at our belief system! Do you have a story that you own about yourself, your life, your family? I know for many years mine was the fact that my Dad died when I was a young teenager; in some ways, I guess it made me a victim and I used it as a tool for teenage outbursts and unruly behaviour. I guess it wasn't until I trained as a life coach that I realised I had created this belief within myself. Yes it was true that my dad had died but it was also true that there was a huge lesson to be learnt from the grief and one that would propel me further on my spiritual path if only I allowed it to! It took me a long time to realise this part of the belief, but sometimes that's what grief does to you! Not all beliefs are as painful as the ones surrounding the loss of a loved one.
We all have our own experiences of stories that we own; some examples could be as follows:
~ As a child I spent a lot of time in hospital hence I believe I have a very low immune system
~ I grew up in a family where emotions were not expressed easily and therefore I believe it is not right to talk openly about how you are feeling
~ At school I was never any good at art and therefore I believe I am not a creative person
~ I once did a presentation in a job and got a coughing fit so I now believe that if I ever stand up to talk in front of people I will start to cough
~ My father left the family home when I was just a child and therefore I believe no man should be trusted
Some of these examples may sound familiar to you while others may sound totally absurd. The point is that right or wrong, they are all beliefs and beliefs are what drives our behaviour. They impact how you feel about yourself, other people, your work, your relationships, your hobbies and the world around you.
Take a moment now to think about your own story and the beliefs you hold around it. If the beliefs don't serve & support you well they tend to slow you down and prevent you from achieving what it is you were put here to do. Ask yourself "why do I believe that" and I'm sure you will have plenty of evidence (which is really your proof) that it is right ~ but is it really right? Is there someone you see living their life well without such a belief as yours. What would life be like if you were to change that belief? The concept may seem too scary to even look at. However, like everything in life, sometimes the thought can be more scary than the actual action.
Remember that beliefs develop over time and the older you get the more the negative beliefs can impact your life. Isn't it time to start making those small changes in your life so that you can go on to live your best life yet? ......And remember it's never too late to start, all you need to do is take one small tiny step in the right direction of changing those beliefs.
If you would like to work with me on a specific belief system that is holding you back then I would love to hear from you.
I help people from all walks of life to make the changes in their lives that have held them back so that they can go on and achieve what it is they really feel makes a difference in their lives. Don't worry about where you live in the world as most of my sessions are done via Skype or phone! I'm currently working with a 62 year old woman helping her to change some very ingrained, non-serving beliefs about herself. She is amazing herself with the progress she is making and is a true example of "it is never too late to work on yourself"
Negative beliefs can cause us to have self-doubt and feelings of unworthiness towards ourselves which is very very far from the truth of who you are and who you were put here to be. Its time to take steps to rewrite the next chapter of your life story. I hope this piece spurs you on to make some changes, remembering that every baby step is a step in the right direction.